Hear what some couples have to say about their experiences in taking the Created for Connection class.
“After taking the Created for Connection class we can honestly say it has vastly improved our communication style. We had trouble with arguments escalating quickly, not really listening to each other fully, and trouble reconnecting after arguments. Since taking this class with Ruel and Johannah we have truly learned how to slow down our discussions so we can listen fully to each other, and not disconnect from each other as easily as we once did. The book and the class have changed our marriage for the better, and as a bonus, we can use these new skills to help improve all our other relationships as well!”
“We as Christian married couples know we have an enemy that is desperate to come between the one flesh relationship that God created to glorify Himself in His design for marriage. I thought I was pretty good at communication-based on having 15+ years of counseling under my belt from my first marriage. However, the Created for Connection class gave me tools from research-based materials, coaching from a godly couple, and companionship with the other group members to forge more connection, compassion, and understanding to overcome the enemy, disagreements, and my own fears to bring me and my husband to a safer and closer place together than I thought possible.”
“We were at an important point in our marriage, having recently started a family. We were trying to adjust to the new rhythm of parenthood while maintaining a healthy marriage, but we could feel things slipping. We enrolled in the Created for Connection class (with the help of our wonderful church community in many ways) and spent the following few months digging in. The structure and content of the class was just what we needed. Praise God for how he used the Tyer’s wisdom, honest experiences of others, and helpful content for us to be in a much healthier spot as a couple! We are so glad that we did Created for Connection.”
“I tell everyone about my experience at C4C. Many people are intrigued by the term “demon dialogues” which is so accurately termed! Most of our arguments in our marriage turn into the same dance- rehearsed for many years- embedded with our own biases, shortcomings, traumas, and unresolved resentment.
This isn’t a class that promises a magic push of a button where everything is better. Instead, it allowed me to look inward, yet again, in my role of disconnection. It gave me the tools to inspect the negative cycle and narratives. We get homework, and it’s the real deal. It wasn’t easy, and it still isn’t- but I find that my husband and I are talking more and more about things we were leaving in the dark. We aren’t as afraid to talk, even if it’s uncomfortable. In one of our 1-on-1s, we were going through a question, and my husband was sharing something. I legitimately thought I was going to burn up and die on the spot. I know that that is dramatic, but had I not been in the safe space of this assignment, I would’ve quipped up a one-liner that would silence the discussion or find another way to run away. It is not whether he is right or wrong or if he sees what my intentions were, I had to sit and listen to it. Torture!! However, once I realized that I would, in fact, not burn up into flames on the spot… I practiced it a few more times during the week… and it got better.
Perhaps, I had more to do with our cycles and dance than I thought. This class gives us the compassion for not only our spouses, but for all the people around us. I highly recommend seeing both Ruel and Johannah in a coaching session as well, for at least one of the conversations, because they helped coach us through the conversations when it got tough. I’m so grateful to have been in the group. If we didn’t live so far away, I might even do it again. ”